Gérard Morel sings a love song „le nu te va si bien“. Emma la clown
sits next to him, listens, and reacts with the expression on her face,
sometimes by making some sounds and one time by going away when the text is a
bit less positive... Then he says, „Hey come on, it isn’t finished yet“. What I
like is that at the end she is totally satisfied with the exact same text
because now she sees it from another perspective.
I wanted to share this video already for a while but I’m not sure what
to say about it. I can share something about listening. For example that it’s
not my strength. Like Emma I would also walk away before it’s finished and
never find out how to see ‚the critical note’ from a positive perspective when the
other person doesn’t invite me to wait in a very gentle and very confident way.
Gérard Morel obviously totally trusts that she will like it at the end, if he would have doubted she would have
left.
In the workshop about clown ways of connecting, Jan Dillen and Bart
Walter told the group that listening, real listening, is being very active and
attentive with the heart, brains, eyes and ears and that it is without thinking at the same time about
a smart ass answer to give, without anticipating where it could possibly lead.
Lately I was talking with my parents about this topic and how difficult it can
be, because being ‘smart’ got to be a kind of survival technique. And then I
realized that I was doing it again since
my father was actually telling something… Then I shut my mouth and just
breathed for I while and I discovered that my heart was beating like an idiot,
for how exiting it was to let go of
control while listening. I am actually a bit shocked by it, even such a basic
thing. But I have to keep reminding myself that it’s okay to find simple things
difficult, as long as you don’t have a problem with that. During this workshop
there was often someone reacting on the advice he or she got with: “but that’s so difficult”. In reaction whereof Jan
Dillen recommended us to make “that’s easy!” the mantra we repeat to ourselves.
And he is right, a clown always thinks it’s easy and get’s in trouble, but he will never ever ‘learn’ to draw the
conclusion “that everything is always
so difficult and he is failing all the
time”. For the clown there is only play.
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